Sometimes men have a hard time understanding what a woman goes through during her “time of the month”, and therefore do not know what to do to help her. Here’s a how-to article to help men better understand what a woman goes through and what they can do to help.
1 Realize what a woman goes through during her period. Obviously men can’t put themselves in the place of a woman and understand what it’s like to have a menstrual cycle, but they can try to understand what symptoms they go through. Woman usually get terrible stomach cramps, which are never fun, and can range from a dull pain that simply annoys, to a stabbing pain that practically paralyses a woman. Women can get mood swings, they can get headaches, restlessness, become extremely tired or sleepy, become sore in their genital regions, and their appetites can dramatically change. Symptoms will vary from woman to woman and some women may not even have symptoms at all! Periods are just generally uncomfortable and the symptoms that go along with it are never any fun. Hopefully this will help give you an idea of what a woman goes through during her menstrual cycle.
2 Make her feel good about herself. Give her compliments. Say things that will make her feel beautiful and intelligent. This will help boost her confidence and help a little with her mood swings.
3 Help her out with things. If she has any little chores or errands to do, help her out. Take the stress off of her by doing the dishes or taking her things down to the laundry. This will help lift some weight from her shoulders and give her time to relax.
4 Comfort her. Have her sit down and give her a massage or give her a warm hug. Even a comforting arm rub will make her feel better.
5 Make her feel loved and appreciated. Let her know how happy you are to have her in your life. Tell her she’s a great friend, girlfriend, or wife. If she’s at work or away from you, call her cellphone, work phone or email them and tell her how beautiful, sweet and all-round awesome she is. It’s not even describable how nice it is for a person to do this.
6 Don’t act disgusted. Show her that you are not grossed out by the very thought of her menstrual cycle (even if you are). If she tries to talk to you about it, do not make faces or say ‘Go talk to one of your girlfriends”. This will just make her feel like you don’t care. Another part of this step is to man up if she needs some “errands”. Go get her the “girl” stuff she is out of (tampons, etc.) and pick her up some chocolate or her favorite magazine while you are at it! It will make her feel like you really care.
Even if a woman doesn’t go through any symptoms during her period, it’s still nice to help her out and comfort her to make it less hard on her.
Just chat with her, keep the conversation light, avoid confrontational subjects. She will just enjoy you helping her forget about the way she is feeling.
Try not to mention it at every opportunity—just act normal but still let her know you’re there for her.
Sometimes, going out can be a lot of hassle for her. Maybe you could set up a restaurant in the dining room. She will find it funny and it will help get her mind off the symptoms.
Do things she wants to do. If you’re going out to eat, let her pick the restaurant, or if you’re going out to the movies, let her pick what movie to see.
Just holding her, or letting her sleep in your arms can make her feel comfortable. Just being there and being sweet makes anyone feel better.
Don’t make rude (mean) comments when she leaks or when she is trying to tell you how she feels.
Offer her a hot-water bottle: the heat and pressure will decrease the cramps.
If you’re unsure of whether she’s on her period, it may be best not to ask. Regardless, make sure she’s comfortable with you and doesn’t feel offended.
Never be rude and tell her “You’ll get over it”.
Remember that she is very emotional, so don’t take her action to heart but know and expect that she will take every thing to heart.
Remember to be patient and understanding. If things get too out of hand, take a deep breath, and leave the room to cool off.
Don’t make any joke about periods and PMS.
If she is in extreme agony, leave her alone. Sometimes there is nothing you can do about her pain, and being there might just make it worse. Comfort her later on when the pain has eased off a bit. Ask her what she prefers.